Introduction Throughout your journey of kinks, fetishes and BDSM as a whole, you will likely have stumbled across the term service submission. At a glance it seems like a straightforward idea and for the most part, it is. However we are going to look into it all on a deeper level and really pick apart […]
Your presence is air, your silence is deafening and suffocating. For service oriented kinksters, a never ending dialogue occurs in absentia. The desire to be needed and relied upon extends to time present, and time away. People who are service oriented thrive on seeing their efforts impacting others positively, are passionate about assignments and responsibilities, […]
Opposable thumbs are a gift to humans because of the ability to master the use of tools, genitals, and also the ability to knead and manipulate sore muscles in a relaxing massage. They are however fleeting, a tease, and perhaps a form of unintended denial. How often have you really had a massage that lasted […]
This was not in reaction to, but is nonetheless a good response to an advance i received based on nothing more than the protocol and the practice of submissive males wearing panties. I have often said that my mood can be affected by the clothing i wear, but the purpose to me doesn’t change. Underneath […]
With bright eyes and the purest intentions, they come into our lives full of energy, and ready to affix themselves to, and insert their imprint on what was and is to become the new status quo. Taking bigger and bolder steps as they grow, they start to test the boundaries, get a little bolder, and […]
Active submission means that a sub is actively engaged with their Dominant. This can be done though negotiation, scene planning, doing extra things above the expectations to make their Dominant happy. They understand that a dynamic is a journey and not the destination, seeking to grow with their Dominant and be part of the ongoing […]
I am addressing all of you who choose to read this, and i am thankful that you do. Recently i started posting my blog publicly and not just to our Dungeon website, a trove of information about our private Femdom group and resources for public consumption. It can be exhausting. Confronting readers, whether i am […]
One of the goals for today is updating my reward chart, it’s a list of possible outcomes that after completing a task i can enjoy as a reward. When my reward board was created, it had varying rewards ranging from physical pleasure to fetishes and new toy purchases. Over time i have found the reward […]
I chose the term slingshot to fit a narrative, but i have heard the term selective submission used more commonly to describe the act of choosing when and where a sub serves. Something i have been considering is how effectively i apply consistency to my effort. I believe effort behind every action as a submissive […]
Pouting, sulking, whining, and complaining, when things aren’t going well we all do it. Some in very vocal ways, others quietly and introspectively. Throwing a tantrum can be very satisfying, it can help relieve stress and it can also let others know perhaps this is not a good time. However, in a public display of […]