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Dressing the part

Clothing can help you create an identity and feel more assured of your sexuality. Indeed, if you look the part, it begins to sink in at a psychological level. In particular, many feel empowered by changing their appearance with makeup and clothes. When we put on our bondage gear, it’s symbolic; we occupy the role […]

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The Spirit of the Rule

In any dynamic there are usually some form of rules that have been pre agreed to which encompass things such as, daily routines, presentation, grooming, habits, speech, training, journals, clothing, chores and the list goes on. All of these rules have one key similarity and that is ‘The Spirit of the Rule’. This is the […]

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Topping from the Bottom

Introduction There are many forms of exchange between a Dominant and a submissive in a D/s dynamic. The most common being communication, with that comes its own world of complications that you could run into. One of the more popular ones mentioned and discussed is Topping from the bottom and how to correct that style […]

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Understanding Likes and Limits

Knowing what you can and cannot do is vital in most areas of life. No matter what you’re into, kink is about consent, communication, and compromise. Before trying any new sex act, obtaining enthusiastic, continuous consent from all parties involved is a must. Your kinks may not perfectly align with your partner’s, and that’s okay. […]

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Kinking in the New Year: Creating Protocols, Goals & Resolutions for a Fet-tastic Year

In this second part of the Dom(me)’s Life two-part series on Kinky Goals and Resolutions, we’re looking ahead to the New Year. Here we’ll take our reflections from the past year (see part one of this series, if you haven’t already, for help on this), and we’ll use them to create meaningful protocols, goals &/or […]

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Kinking in the Old Year: Looking back on kinks of the past year

Kinky Goals & Resolutions, Week One It’s that time again—the year is new and many people use this time to set goals and make resolutions for the calendar ahead. As lifestyle kinksters, we too can take the new year as a chance to reflect on our kinky journey and chart our course for what we’d […]

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Subspace

What is subspace? Subspace is sometimes described as an altered headspace, a floaty feeling, total bliss. Subspace is hard to define but simple to understand as a combination of both mental and physical experiences. With the mental experience you can get complete relaxation, calmness, equilibrium, tranquillity and serenity. The physical part is caused by the […]

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Orgasm Control – Edging

Edging – more than just getting off If you hear someone talk about edging, unless they’re gardeners they are usually talking about a common form of orgasm control. ‘edging’ ‘surfing’ ‘peaking’ is building up to the point just before an orgasm and then reducing, changing or stopping all stimulation so that an orgasm isn’t achieved. […]

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Orgasm Control – Tease and Denial

Tease and denial is the art of taking your sub/partner to dizzying heights of arousal, increasing sexual tension, desire and anticipation and keeping them there for a prolonged period of time making for an exciting power exchange. For the sake of education, I’m going to split T&D into two categorie When I’m referring to short […]

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Orgasm Control – Chastity

Chastity in the BDSM context is a form of Power Exchange, and can be used as sexual play or as a protocol within a dynamic.