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BDSM Education Beginners Guides Fundamentals

A Brief History of BDSM

For as long as there has been sex, there has been kink. One of the earliest images of erotic whipping came from 490 B.C. in the Etruscan Tomb of Whipping (Lazio, Italy), with stories and poems describing sexual punishment and use of pain in arousal dating back even further. The Kama Sutra, for example, describes […]

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BDSM Education Beginners Guides Definitions Fundamentals

What is BDSM?

Power exchange dynamics have been part of relationships for ever, BDSM is an acronym meant to serve as a catch-all term for the spectrum of kink relationships in one which one person is acknowledged as the Dominant partner and the other as the submissive. In any given BDSM relationship, there may or may not be […]

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BDSM Education Edge Play Fundamentals

Edge Play

Edge Play is one of those terms that seems to have two different meanings within the community. What constitutes edge play to one person, might seem like licking vanilla ice cream to another person.  Term One: Some people consider edge play to be an umbrella term for a list of kinks and fetishes considered to […]

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BDSM Education Beginners Guides

Toy care, cleaning and lube guide

Toy care guide and cleaning advice Within Dommes Life, a practice that is well known and followed is SSC/RACK/PRICK. Why bring up SSC/RACK/PRICK when talking about toys you are probably wondering? Well, being safe in part means taking care of yourself and using safe toys to play with. Toy care is really quite easy if […]

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BDSM Education Beginners Guides

Mutual Masturbation

Masturbation doesn’t vanish when you’re in a relationship. In fact, masturbation is a great way to understand exactly what you like, and to communicate it to a partner who’s watching you play. When each partner can see exactly what gets the other’s motor revving, cumming together (or separately) is much easier. Playing together can be […]

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BDSM Education Beginners Guides Fundamentals

RACK/PRICK

RACK  Understanding the risks is an important step to practicing kink responsibly, RACK attempts to address that need. Risk Aware Consensual Kink acknowledges that BDSM carries inherent risk, and places an emphasis on knowing what the unintended consequences are of engaging in a kinky activity. In order to ensure both parties are aware of the […]

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BDSM Education Beginners Guides Fundamentals

Safe, Sane and Consensual (SSC)

The most commonly used philosophy for evaluating acceptable kinky play is SSC, and it is a great distinction for those unfamiliar with BDSM to understand the difference between abuse and responsible kink practices. It dates back to the early 80s, and is simple in its basic principle of defining any kinky activity by asking; is […]

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BDSM Education Rope Series

Rope Tutorials

Compiled by Mistress Michelle and cupcake There is no better way to learn, experience and understand rope, rope bondage and shibari than by practicing by yourself. Gain skills and confidence by practicing common knots or following tutorials by some skilled riggers, knot masters and sailors.  By practicing self bondage tutorials you gain knowledge and experience, […]

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BDSM Education Rope Series

Rope Positions and Techniques

Rope Positions  There are three main ways that you can do rope; on the ground, partially suspended and fully suspended. From these locations any variation can be achieved with the only limits being flexibility, creativity and of course safety. Rope can be used to restrict movement, to grant access to sensitive body parts, or for […]

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BDSM Education Rope Series

Rope Ties & Knots

Knotty Knotty Bondage Ties The amazing thing about rope is the amount of knots there are, doing the same tie but with different knots can create a completely different look without changing much at all. While there are a number of basic ties that every rigger should have in their arsenal, rope can be used […]