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BDSM Education Sensation Play Wax Play

wax play

Wax play is a form of sensation play where hot wax, usually from a candle, is dripped onto the skin. It is relatively safe and easy to learn and can be very versatile.Kinksters enjoy wax play for a variety of reasons. The feeling of wax dripping on your skin can be painful, relaxing, or sensual.  […]

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BDSM Education Sensation Play

Sensory Deprivation

Suggestions for Sensory Deprivation Play  Certain combinations work well with sensory deprivation; others require a bit more caution before proceeding. The following are suggestions of different types of play. Sensual Play A Starting Point Blindfolds are very common and easy to find and use. A silk tie makes a good start to sensual play. Without visual confirmation, […]

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BDSM Education Sensation Play

Temperature Play

Temperature play is a form of sensation play, using the physical reaction of your nerve endings to trigger a response. Any object or substance that can feel cool or be chilled, feel warm or be heated can be used in temperature play.  Temperature play is also a form of edge play, meaning with it carries […]

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BDSM Education Sensation Play

Types of Sensation Play

Sensory Deprivation  Removing one or more of the senses in order to amplify the sensations of the remaining ones. It is a quick way to elevate feelings of vulnerability and submission, and can be disorienting as well as overwhelming. Temperature Play Simply put, temperature play is the act of using hot or cold to elicit […]

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Dom(me)sLife Pride Month

LGB… and What?

We have spent the last few weeks learning and understanding more about the queer community, and how the kink community overlaps and is included under the queer spectrum. Before Pride Month ends, let us take some time to look at the minorities within the minority – the fringe groups within the queer community that are […]

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Dom(me)sLife Fundamentals

Pride Month – Health care

We talk about pride and issues facing the LGBTQ+ community – about parental rights, workplace discrimination, legalizing gay marriage… But one area that is often overlooked is healthcare, both physical and mental. Mental Health Depression and anxiety are very common in LGBTQ people, starting at a very young age. In a 2019 CDC report, it […]

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Dom(me)sLife

Coming out……and the importance of community

Coming Out is an important process that is different for everyone; some experiences are difficult to hear while others are heart-warming and inspiring. Nevertheless, coming out is never easy and we can often draw inspiration from others and their stories. For many, coming out as lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, or queer (LGBTQ+) is a powerful […]

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BDSM Education Beginners Guides Fundamentals

A Brief History of BDSM

For as long as there has been sex, there has been kink. One of the earliest images of erotic whipping came from 490 B.C. in the Etruscan Tomb of Whipping (Lazio, Italy), with stories and poems describing sexual punishment and use of pain in arousal dating back even further. The Kama Sutra, for example, describes […]

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BDSM Education Beginners Guides Definitions Fundamentals

What is BDSM?

Power exchange dynamics have been part of relationships for ever, BDSM is an acronym meant to serve as a catch-all term for the spectrum of kink relationships in one which one person is acknowledged as the Dominant partner and the other as the submissive. In any given BDSM relationship, there may or may not be […]

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BDSM Education Edge Play Fundamentals

Edge Play

Edge Play is one of those terms that seems to have two different meanings within the community. What constitutes edge play to one person, might seem like licking vanilla ice cream to another person.  Term One: Some people consider edge play to be an umbrella term for a list of kinks and fetishes considered to […]