Orgasm Control

It’s more fun than it sounds

Orgasm control is an umbrella or catch-all term that covers a number of sub-categories.

  • Orgasm denial
  • Teasing and denial
  • Edging
  • Ruined orgasms
  • Cumming on command
  • Forced orgasms
  • Post-orgasm torture
  • Chastity.

Simply put, it’s a broad term that covers a power exchange where one person has an aspect of their sexual pleasure, satisfaction, and gratification, controlled by another. It’s not about squashing sexual pleasure, it’s about delaying it. Here’s where you might be thinking,but what about chastity, isn’t that a quashing of sexual pleasure?

Nope, it means a Dominant decides when, where how, how often, and even if the submissive is allowed sexual release. When orgasm control is done well, it can be a beautiful, erotic, and intimate experience, it’s a power play that lends itself easily to long-distance kinky fun.

Tease And Denial

The point of tease and denial is that it’s carried out over time, prolonged and unhurried, so that it becomes more about the power dynamics in the relationship than reaching orgasm. This is an intoxicating power play of taking your partner to devilish heights of arousal for a prolonged period of time. It’s a seriously erotic game of merciless teasing, bringing them as close to the edge of orgasm as possible without putting them over, then denying them release.


Edging is the practice of stopping yourself from reaching orgasm right when you are on the cusp – the metaphorical edge right before you fall off the cliff to climax. Essentially, this means stopping sexual stimulation before you cum, waiting about 30+ seconds, then stimulating yourself again. Repeating over and over again until you are ready to orgasm.

Ruined Orgasms

A ruined orgasm is a power play where as soon as the sub reaches the point of no return, all stimulation is stopped; Then discomfort or pain is caused, or ejaculation is “blocked”. Ruined orgasms do not feel intense or satisfying like regular orgasms.

If done right there will be little or no contractions and the sensations are weak and fade away very quickly. In many cases it is possible to continue stimulation after a ruined orgasm, enabling a continuation towards the next ruined orgasm.

Forced Orgasms

It’s a part of power play where the submissived orgasms are controlled for as long as possible, while the Dominant partner’s mission is to force that orgasm out of them by using all of the tools at their disposal.


Chastity is a power exchange kink that comes in many different forms. Chastity can mean different things to different people in different dynamics. One of the most common is enforced chastity by a device, like a cock cage or chastity belt. The rules associated with this vary from 24/7 to just being locked up for the duration of a scene.

Another form of chastity is the honor system, or mental chastity. This is where the submissive agrees to not play without permission but doesn’t wear a chastity device. The chastity kink can be anything that you want it to be, one-off, short-term, long-term, or indefinitely. The rules associated with it are completely up to you.