The Rope Series

An Introduction to Rope

Written by Sir Seelie

Rope is a fetish that can be either sexual or non sexual, it is one of the most diverse kinks out there in its ability to be done solo, with a partner or in a group. In addition, rope can be done on the ground, partially suspended or fully suspended, it can be decorative, fashionable, restraining, or even torturous. Rope has a long history of being connective, having the power to place both Top and bottom into a meditative headspace. Its diversity and various options makes it a great kink to get into and learn, with a great many resources and tutorials out there to start yourself with. As with all kinks it has its risks and should be started from the ground up with your learning.

People participate in rope for a wide variety of reasons, there are physical, mental and visual elements to enjoy. There is a unique texture to each type of rope, ranging from soft and supple all the way to prickly and abrasive. You can create creative and artistic looks or make eye catchingly symmetrical pieces. Depending on how you are impacted by different stimuli, expect to have different experiences. Also, depending on where you apply the rope, and the type of play, you may enjoy it based on more physical reasons related to your own body. Finally, the length of time spent creating and enjoying rope work will impact your overall mindset.

There is an infinite amount of knowledge, preferences, and styles of rope and bondage practice, the main principles we will explore in this series are; rope types, rope ties and rope knots, different positions and techniques and take a look at tutorials for knots and self ties. 

Rope Types

Different types of rope have varying degrees of flexibility, will feel different to the touch, can come in a multitude of thickness and lengths, and even have unique storage needs and smells depending on how they are made. They don’t need to be expensive and are available in most stores, even dollar stores, though some are quite coarse and can be very colorful. It’s easy to get into, very personal, and pleasing to the eye of the beholder.

Rope Ties and Rope Knots

Depending on your desired look as well as potential scene / use, there are a multitude of knots that can be used to ensure design continuity, flexibility and safety, and functional support. Knots range in levels of difficulty but don’t need to be complex, even a simple wrapping or weaving can be included within rope play, but specific knots should be used in complex positions and weight bearing scenarios like suspension.


Positions and Techniques

Different positions can be achieved by focusing on tying columns or sections of body parts, for either the purpose of restriction of movement, increased access to sensitive body parts, or for aesthetic reasons. Objects can also be used with bondage to attach a device, to affix a bottom to a surface, or to suspend in mid air.

Self-Tie Tutorials 

People practice rope bondage for a wide variety of reasons. Rope can spice up your sex life; it can also be a way to connect with someone non-sexually. Rope can feel edgy and exciting, or comforting and relaxing. Rope can hurt so good; but it can also be a gentle hug. Rope bondage is a form of communication between two people, and the content is really up to you. Cupcake and I have put together a list of links to tutorials we have used over the year’s to help get you started with learning the ropes. 

Knots are fundamental to rope bondage. While you don’t need to learn dozens of esoteric knots in order to be a rigger, it’s important that you thoroughly master all of the basic knots that we use regularly. 

As indicated by the name the ties must be self done, but that’s a great way to practice and get some new ideas. Self-tying is a good option whether you’re single or you want to teach yourself before trying a tie on a partner. Enjoy learning the ropes, play safe and always have sharp safety shears within reach for a quick way out if necessary.

Mistress says…

  • Nerve damage is the most common injury due to improper placement.
  • Always have safety sheers or a seat belt cutter on hand when practicing rope play.
  • Watch for signs of circulation restriction in changes with skin color and feeling.
  • Be aware of your / your partner’s physical limitations and past injuries when considering different positions.