How deeply that lust can feel, when the opposite of frenzy – the anticipation of nearness, reaches a tipping point that requires the lightest of touch, a tiny spark to ignite. I was reminded of a teaching moment, early in my journey i was introduced to sensation play with the application of rubbing alcohol to […]
Controlling yourself is not the same as having control, and the two can easily be confused. Lost submissives appear like zombies in the night, thirst has turned to drought and desperation is apparent, when self discipline is beyond reach. I see it in the passive approach lost submissives take with approaching Dominants, but i also […]
Something i notice when i travel are the different ways people acknowledge each other, from greeting to gratitude, it is easy to misunderstand and make judgement based on customs alone. Mostly i would say these are pet peeves of mine, but i do notice exchanges within the community that raise a Spockian eyebrow from me […]
There are many approaches newbies will take, and there are many reactions to expect from submissives according to their demeanour. New subs are very appealing to Dominants, but it really depends on the right fit. Exploring new kinks, fetishes and ideas for the first time is exhilarating and can be a very powerful experience if […]
It goes without saying what you thought of the BDSM community is not what you found, and what you thought you would like is different from reality, and the journey is something that takes a life of its own. Those are the given inconsistencies, but others can be much more easy to spot, the expectations […]
I used to take pride in my ability to conceal thoughts, as someone who does not easily display emotion i would often hear others comment about how they could not tell what i was thinking. It gave me an incredible ability to hear others, balance their emotions against the words they use, but the best […]
Taking initiative can be an empowering experience for a submissive if they have the trust of their Dominant. There are so many questions a submissive asks before making an independent decision on behalf of themselves and their D, but the reward is a sense of pride. There is the dreaded fear of topping and passive […]
I had never heard this term before – one night i observed a submissive in a public scene – i immediately understood when he communicated he was blissed out what he meant. How perfectly is described the state of mind, and such a perfect word to explain his level of enjoyment, the type of subspace […]
Those intense moments that you recall vividly, the sounds, the smells, the feelings, stay with you, always will, and serve a purpose beyond their intent. It’s not a defined purpose, they serve a reminder of exactly those sensations, but you are the one who decided the meaning. Part of a good self care routine includes […]
There is a middle ground in the communication between Dominant and submissive where creation lies, where ideas become negotiations, and scenes play out uninhibited. Scripting such performances can feel inauthentic, and presenting a blank page lacks enticement. What, where, when and why, these are the most important questions for a D/s discussion. What it should […]