Being a submissive or a slave can be all encompassing, all engaging and all fulfilling. Similarly chastity, as an extension, places parameters around arousal, sexual tension, and release. The thought of enjoyment outside of submission, or control for many over time is undesirable, and can be raught in anxiety. Two reasons for this are the […]
There is a common misconception that Dominants instinctively know what to do and have the memory of elephants. Many make claims to support this theory, but the truth is the most involved and experienced Dominants usually set goals and challenges for their subs because they have the same expectations for themselves. Many submissives view the […]
Confidence can be hard to come by, as a submissive it is not always apparent and sometimes not appreciated but you should never be afraid to be yourself and let your personality shine through. For myself it felt unnatural at first, searching for the line between individuality and compliance, asserting and assigning myself a role, […]
I like to lick vaginas. I really really like bringing sexual pleasure to my partner but how is this an acceptable introduction? Just because i like doing it doesn’t mean i am really good at it. If i am really good at it, that still doesn’t mean i am any better at it than somebody […]
Putting into practice the type of Dominant or submissive you wish to become isn’t entirely of your own design. It’s important to recognize where the archetype you designed came from, often the ideas from unrealistic sources like porn, or Tumblr show scenes that are staged or choreographed. When put into practice the reality becomes unfulfilling. […]
I returned to the Playgirl Mansion after receiving my second formal invitation. This time when i opened the card there were no words, just a picture of a purple horse and the time 12:30pm. I drove to the male entrance as i had done previously, i wore shorts this time and a plain white t-shirt […]
Waking up with an erection is common, but on occasion you work harder in your dreams than in your jeans. On these days you may wake up with achy balls, very likely you will also notice those globes glow a fabulous purplish/blueish hue. From a Dominant, ‘blue balls’ are a gift, a sign of care […]
It’s common for submissives to become passive when it comes to understanding what is behind many of the finer details of BDSM. In part this is due to a desire to be given permission to experience it fetishes, or seek only details that are of interest to a Dominant. Research however, is important in BDSM […]
I was sent this question through a post on Reddit by Mistress and i wanted to approach this from a different stance than previously i have. The OP was asking for responses from males specifically so it is a question of gender and preference and why it is important. Semantics for me are a limit […]
I am all about nicknames, for most of my life i have had one to the extent that some of my closest friends went years without knowing that it wasn’t my real name. It’s a name i associate with my youth, with accomplishments of the past and i can quickly assume a lighter more jovial […]