We are exploring the nature of torture this week and its many purposes and types within BDSM. There is a connection often drawn between punishment and torture that intrigues me, partly because i enjoy torture in a very primal sense, to suffer for Her would bring me pleasure if it did for Her as well. […]
Define blood play? When I hear blood play i think of some type of WAM play. And that’s a nope for me. Now if moving on to something like blood cupping or needles, I’m okay with it just as long as I know ahead of time and can prepare for it. Blood doesn’t bother me […]
Someone very near and dear to me is always right, i won’t embarrass Mistress by saying who it is, but She will let you know between the two of us it is Her, She will let me know however in much more subtle ways. It took little time for me to remove the word no […]
Labels are something i despise, even though i freely proclaim that words only power if you let them, they hold even more power if you try to hide them. Afraid of being treated differently, in ways beyond our control, we try to influence our outward image so others will encourage our strengths instead of exploiting […]
I decided to focus my research around the benefits of participating in BDSM from an emotional and mental state of well being, what the psychological effects are, and how to get the most out of BDSM to promote a healthy mindset. The first article examines kinks and fetishes, how they impact the mind and what […]
Sometimes the things we see as strange or over the top in others are the things we could learn the most from. I am someone who struggles to speak in front of others, i search for the right words, i wonder if my meaning is clear. Those who blab on freely without thinking and say […]
Take time off is important, whether it is a few hours a day, a few days, or an extended period of time, it helps us recalibrate, recharge, and gives us perspective and appreciate what we have to come back to. It can be a challenge to take time away from things that are routine or […]
In my view, power exchange is simply handing over power of an aspect, or multiple aspects, of your life to your partner for them to control. Now, with that being said, there are various ways ones can engage in a power exchange relationship, and to varying degrees. And it doesn’t necessarily mean it has to […]
Say what you mean because it’s not a game. Although it may seem as though you are playing the role by communicating in the style you see as appropriate, you are truly playing a role. It is true that within power exchange, there is protocol that determines the words, the titles, and the format, but […]
Something i notice when i travel are the different ways people acknowledge each other, from greeting to gratitude, it is easy to misunderstand and make judgement based on customs alone. Mostly i would say these are pet peeves of mine, but i do notice exchanges within the community that raise a Spockian eyebrow from me […]