Define blood play? When I hear blood play i think of some type of WAM play. And that’s a nope for me. Now if moving on to something like blood cupping or needles, I’m okay with it just as long as I know ahead of time and can prepare for it. Blood doesn’t bother me […]
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Trying things on for size
I used to write erotica from both sides of the D/s perspective in the hopes of understanding the value of each. I couldn’t fathom how anyone would want to be my Dominant, and what they would gain from it. When asking D types if i was on the right path or not, the answers ranged […]
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The delicate nature of ribbons
Bows can be so pretty, but ribbons don’t always stand for joy. Something seemingly delicate and frail can hold so much power if placed on a pedestal. Holding together important gifts and garments ribbons can bind and prevent things from unravelling and falling apart. Ribbons can carry meaning, symbolic signs of hope or cut when […]
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Pretty cocky
It’s a dilemma many submissives face, how much of their personality to let shine through, how much control is too much control to asset within a D/s negotiation. The extremes are well known and often presented, slaves with no limits of any kind, and submissive who challenge through various forms of topping. In the middle, […]
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That’s not your job
Submissives in D/s relationship often feel the need to take responsibility over the happiness of their Dominant. It has nothing to do with topping from the bottom, or taking control, you can’t be responsible for your D’s happiness because it’s not your job. I could get into a Good Will Hunting rant on it’s not […]
This week we are exploring the psychology of kink in the Dungeon. Exploring the meaning behind different feelings through researching and understanding the connection to the mind behind the various aspects of D/s, as well as kinks and fetishes. The tasks for this week assigned by Lady A will require the submissives to share how […]
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When you commit to change
Controlling yourself is not the same as having control, and the two can easily be confused. Lost submissives appear like zombies in the night, thirst has turned to drought and desperation is apparent, when self discipline is beyond reach. I see it in the passive approach lost submissives take with approaching Dominants, but i also […]
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Plainly speaking
Something i notice when i travel are the different ways people acknowledge each other, from greeting to gratitude, it is easy to misunderstand and make judgement based on customs alone. Mostly i would say these are pet peeves of mine, but i do notice exchanges within the community that raise a Spockian eyebrow from me […]
There are many approaches newbies will take, and there are many reactions to expect from submissives according to their demeanour. New subs are very appealing to Dominants, but it really depends on the right fit. Exploring new kinks, fetishes and ideas for the first time is exhilarating and can be a very powerful experience if […]
Taking initiative can be an empowering experience for a submissive if they have the trust of their Dominant. There are so many questions a submissive asks before making an independent decision on behalf of themselves and their D, but the reward is a sense of pride. There is the dreaded fear of topping and passive […]