There is a common misconception that Dominants instinctively know what to do and have the memory of elephants. Many make claims to support this theory, but the truth is the most involved and experienced Dominants usually set goals and challenges for their subs because they have the same expectations for themselves. Many submissives view the […]
Without warning our circumstances can change, and without notice or premeditation our bodies and minds can swing in dramatic ways. There is a moment between realization and reality, between a physical exertion and pain, when our minds lose the ability to process the changes brought forth by external forces. I love these moments, i don’t […]
Active submission means that a sub is actively engaged with their Dominant. This can be done though negotiation, scene planning, doing extra things above the expectations to make their Dominant happy. They understand that a dynamic is a journey and not the destination, seeking to grow with their Dominant and be part of the ongoing […]
I chose the term slingshot to fit a narrative, but i have heard the term selective submission used more commonly to describe the act of choosing when and where a sub serves. Something i have been considering is how effectively i apply consistency to my effort. I believe effort behind every action as a submissive […]
Setting the table is a fitting description for how many submissives attempt to get what they want without asking. The concept is creating a pleasing environment for the D, so they either seek to reward the submissive or are simply more likely to be in a playful mood. So why not simply ask? Many submissives […]
Aftercare is the recovery from a scene or play, where a set of actions help the mind and body relate to the change in physical and emotion energy expended. It is common for feelings of sadness or a sudden emotional response to occur in the hours, and sometimes days following a scene. Coming up with […]
Miss Seelie’s Week This week really made me think and analyze a lot about myself. I think it brought out some of the best in me. It meant a lot because I negotiated my first ever scene. I recognized my injuries and how it could impact play time. I got to combine impact, CBT, and […]
On its face this statement is true, but an explanation is necessary. This is a blanket one size fits all general statement and as most stereotypical statements it doesn’t hold up when truly analyzed. Using the logic that made this statement you could argue that shooting fireworks, cooking a roast in a pressure cooker, or […]
This task had me thinking for days, watching endless how to’s and reading about custom toys, furniture and hundreds of other crazy fun things. Once I had some ideas i started through what I had available to work with and here at the apartment it is quite bare… Tools and supplies are all there. I […]
Alone with an orgasm Recently I had the opportunity as a group task to attempt to orgasm through anal stimulation alone. Now when I say alone I am referring to completely alone both in other types of stimulation and physically being alone. Of course I have had plenty of orgasms by myself, stroking a quick […]