I often hear submissives and bottoms troubled by the fact that they can’t take as much pain as other people they see playing. A good bit of what we do in this lifestyle involves some type of pain in some form, be it physical or mental. These types of play aren’t just for masochist. Masochists […]
Without warning our circumstances can change, and without notice or premeditation our bodies and minds can swing in dramatic ways. There is a moment between realization and reality, between a physical exertion and pain, when our minds lose the ability to process the changes brought forth by external forces. I love these moments, i don’t […]
I am addressing all of you who choose to read this, and i am thankful that you do. Recently i started posting my blog publicly and not just to our Dungeon website, a trove of information about our private Femdom group and resources for public consumption. It can be exhausting. Confronting readers, whether i am […]
Freaky Friday i have not kept it secret how horny i have been feeling all week. Never i gone through something like this before. It is different though. Usually a horny guy wants a release, but that is not how i feel. It has increased my desire to be useful. After yesterday’s writing combined with […]
Aftercare is the recovery from a scene or play, where a set of actions help the mind and body relate to the change in physical and emotion energy expended. It is common for feelings of sadness or a sudden emotional response to occur in the hours, and sometimes days following a scene. Coming up with […]
Miss Seelie’s Week This week really made me think and analyze a lot about myself. I think it brought out some of the best in me. It meant a lot because I negotiated my first ever scene. I recognized my injuries and how it could impact play time. I got to combine impact, CBT, and […]
The instructions were simple. Do not move. His visit to his Dommes house was like any other. Upon arriving he knocked on the center of the front door. Three knocks, each one second apart and not too hard. As he waited patiently to be granted permission to enter the house, he took a moment to […]
When I first heard about sounding it immediately went on my hard limits list. Largely I would say due to having absolutely no idea about it and the fear of putting something inside the penis. Phantom pain I guess would be the best way to describe it, even without trying it. Our mind works in […]
Are people who take part in BDSM psychologically maladjusted? The Myth For people inexperienced and otherwise uninitiated in kink, the BDSM lifestyle may seem surreal. While a person who would consider themselves as “vanilla” (not kinky) may enjoy some hair pulling or light spanking, many see the image of BDSM as being whips, chains and […]
BDSM is all about pain and torture… The Myth “Please water board me, please I need it” I have never even heard of anyone uttering these words. To some is supposedly BDSM is all about pain and torture. There are a couple issue with this statement. One torture is involuntary where as BDSM requires consent. […]