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BDSM Education Beginners Guides Fundamentals

A Brief History of BDSM

For as long as there has been sex, there has been kink. One of the earliest images of erotic whipping came from 490 B.C. in the Etruscan Tomb of Whipping (Lazio, Italy), with stories and poems describing sexual punishment and use of pain in arousal dating back even further. The Kama Sutra, for example, describes […]

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BDSM Education Beginners Guides Definitions Fundamentals

What is BDSM?

Power exchange dynamics have been part of relationships for ever, BDSM is an acronym meant to serve as a catch-all term for the spectrum of kink relationships in one which one person is acknowledged as the Dominant partner and the other as the submissive. In any given BDSM relationship, there may or may not be […]

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BDSM Education Beginners Guides

Mutual Masturbation

Masturbation doesn’t vanish when you’re in a relationship. In fact, masturbation is a great way to understand exactly what you like, and to communicate it to a partner who’s watching you play. When each partner can see exactly what gets the other’s motor revving, cumming together (or separately) is much easier. Playing together can be […]

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BDSM Education Beginners Guides

Toy care, cleaning and lube guide

Toy care guide and cleaning advice Within Dommes Life, a practice that is well known and followed is SSC/RACK/PRICK. Why bring up SSC/RACK/PRICK when talking about toys you are probably wondering? Well, being safe in part means taking care of yourself and using safe toys to play with. Toy care is really quite easy if […]

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BDSM Education Rope Series

Rope Tutorials

Compiled by Mistress Michelle and cupcake There is no better way to learn, experience and understand rope, rope bondage and shibari than by practicing by yourself. Gain skills and confidence by practicing common knots or following tutorials by some skilled riggers, knot masters and sailors.  By practicing self bondage tutorials you gain knowledge and experience, […]

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BDSM Education Rope Series

Rope Positions and Techniques

Rope Positions  There are three main ways that you can do rope; on the ground, partially suspended and fully suspended. From these locations any variation can be achieved with the only limits being flexibility, creativity and of course safety. Rope can be used to restrict movement, to grant access to sensitive body parts, or for […]

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BDSM Education Rope Series

Rope Ties & Knots

Knotty Knotty Bondage Ties The amazing thing about rope is the amount of knots there are, doing the same tie but with different knots can create a completely different look without changing much at all. While there are a number of basic ties that every rigger should have in their arsenal, rope can be used […]

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BDSM Education Discord Classroom

Understanding Likes and Limits

Knowing what you can and cannot do is vital in most areas of life. No matter what you’re into, kink is about consent, communication, and compromise. Before trying any new sex act, obtaining enthusiastic, continuous consent from all parties involved is a must. Your kinks may not perfectly align with your partner’s, and that’s okay. […]

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BDSM Education Beginners Guides Frenzy Miscellaneous

Frenzy

When there is an increase in the availability, access, and active participation in kink, it causes a physical and psychological change that can alter the types of decisions we make and the type actions we take. The increased presence of endorphins and adrenaline can have an addictive effect over time and can create a headspace […]

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BDSM Education Fundamentals Mindset

The Fundamentals Series – Drop

What is Drop? During the course of a scene our bodies and our minds go through a series of changes, physiologically and well as psychologically. The excitement from participating actively in kinks and fetishes initiates a release of endorphins, adrenaline and several other hormones. Breathing increases and becomes shallow, the pulse rate increases, and the […]