The Caregiver/little dynamic involves one partner (the D-type) taking on a parental type role, and the s-type taking on the role of someone younger than they actually are (the little). Littles range from babies to teenagers and can even change ages within a dynamic. A dynamic can be polyamorous or monogamous and can involve any gender or sexual orientation as well.
There are many different labels for CG/l dynamics:
- B/l – Big/little – D-type, s-type
- DD/lg – Daddy Dom/little girl – Male D-type, female s-type
- DD/bg – Daddy Dom/baby girl – Male D-type, female s-type
- DD/lb – Daddy Dom/little boy – Male D-type, male s-type
- MD/lg – Mommy Domme/little girl – Female D-type, female s-type
- MD/lb – Mommy Domme/little boy – Female D-type, male s-type
While these are the most common forms of relationships in a Caregiver/little dynamic, the D-type isn’t always defined as a Big/Daddy/Mommy, and roles are not necessarily tied to being part of Age Play to be considered CG/l. Many relationships exist where there is still a parental role, without actively engaging in Age Play at all.
Nurturing can still take place, and littles can engage in childish activities as adults, without entering a child-like state. Most CG/l relationships rely on a non-ageplay dynamic most of the time, and engage in Age Play dynamics if and when it is appropriate.
There are endless combinations of roles and dynamics as part of CG/l as a whole. Dynamics should be negotiated based on the ability to participate in different types of activities and scenes when it is appropriate to do so. This ensures both the Caregiver and the little have the necessary space to build and maintain the relationship that fulfills each of them.
Mistresses summary notes:
- The Caregiver refers to themselves as the Daddy or Mommy, but can also include Nanny, Aunt and Uncle and can also be referred to as a Big.
- All of the CG/l dynamics do not necessarily involve any forms of Age Play.
- Although roles are defined, they can be anything anyone chooses, in any combination.
- Not all CG/l dynamics include power exchange.
- Not all Caregivers are Dominants and not all littles are submissives.
Caregiver-type Personalities and Qualities in dynamics
Caregivers enjoy creating a safe space to nurture and develop their children, taking on a parental role by providing guidance.
Motherly Personalities – Mommy
Mommies see themselves as providing unconditional love, siding with her children always and putting their needs first. Being stern or being gentle, her biggest concerns can often be the smallest details. Her goal is providing growth and happiness.
Fatherly Personalities – Daddy
Daddies are loyal and protective, helping to provide room to grow safely in a big world. He can be caring and nurturing as well as direct, being playful at times and strict when needed. Protection can include shelter from the outside world, and shielding from harm within groups and communities.
little-type personalities, common behaviors in dynamics
Adult babies (AB) enjoy the qualities of a newborn, typically under 2 years of age. Activities for an adult baby include wearing baby clothes, drinking from a bottle, and needing to be protected from harming themselves by being in a crib or secure play space. Nap times and bedtime routines, soothing and cleaning are also usually required as part of an AB needs.
A diaper lover (DL) can be any age, though typically this is an adult baby or little who enjoys wearing a diaper. It is usually part of role play and is a fetish, though changing diapers can also be part of an adult baby’s regular care maintenance, typically referred to as an adult baby diaper lover (ABDL).
Littles can be toddlers as young as two or three or older, up to about 12 years of age who need help navigating a big world. They enjoy taking part in more childish activities like colouring, playing with toys and like to wear clothes that represent their desired age identity. A little will need help with basic tasks as well as structure around their day and routines to help them remain safe providing room and space to grow.
Middles take on an age identity of a younger teenager up to the age of around 17, still under the watchful eye of a parent / guardian, but aware of the outside world. They are generally more self aware and can be held accountable for their actions. Middles crave independence and will seek to challenge authority while needing a firm hand to stay on track.
A brat is not a role type exclusive to those in a CG/l dynamic, but share many little-type tendencies in their desire to challenge authority and to receive ongoing direction, grounding their efforts toward personal growth. Within a dynamic, a little-type can also be a brat, but it is also common to have a Caregiver/brat relationship where age identity is undefined.
Also not exclusive to CG/l dynamics, a princess shares many little-type tendencies where a great deal of attention is provided to bring joy into their world, being nurtured through gifts and praise, and in many ways by being spoiled. However, where a princess demands doting and affection of their own choosing, they reward their Caregiver with a compliant and voracious sexual prowess in whatever fashion the Caregiver desires.
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