Your presence is air, your silence is deafening and suffocating. For service oriented kinksters, a never ending dialogue occurs in absentia. The desire to be needed and relied upon extends to time present, and time away. People who are service oriented thrive on seeing their efforts impacting others positively, are passionate about assignments and responsibilities, […]
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Why we hide in the shadows
Labels are something i despise, even though i freely proclaim that words only power if you let them, they hold even more power if you try to hide them. Afraid of being treated differently, in ways beyond our control, we try to influence our outward image so others will encourage our strengths instead of exploiting […]
If i tried to sell a rocket dildo, i can almost guarantee that people would buy it. There’s an extreme element to some fetishes where rational application of a device is secondary to the symbolic nature of it’s immensity. I have met many subs who proudly present their massive insertables for use only to discover […]
It can be difficult to understand how someone can be passionate about the same things for a sustained length of time and still find it enjoyable. Careers often are formed or abandoned based on the fear of combining passion and pleasure with growth and development, similarly kinks and fetishes can be enjoyed and expanded in […]
I decided to focus my research around the benefits of participating in BDSM from an emotional and mental state of well being, what the psychological effects are, and how to get the most out of BDSM to promote a healthy mindset. The first article examines kinks and fetishes, how they impact the mind and what […]
When we let words hold power of us, we reduce our own self worth, and indeed our thick skin to be paper thin and translucent. Referring to ourselves negatively, we attempt to hide the impact those words hold over us, but claiming them first before others can. When we respond to negative words from others, […]
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Cover me up
There’s a song i love by Jason Isbel with this title, and the chorus goes; “cover me up, and know your’re enough, to use me for good”, it speaks to me and the way i am feel vulnerable at the wisp of a breath from Mistress at any given time. What struck me yesterday was […]
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The delicate nature of ribbons
Bows can be so pretty, but ribbons don’t always stand for joy. Something seemingly delicate and frail can hold so much power if placed on a pedestal. Holding together important gifts and garments ribbons can bind and prevent things from unravelling and falling apart. Ribbons can carry meaning, symbolic signs of hope or cut when […]
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The Human Mind on BDSM
For this assignment, I read four articles about BDSM and the psychology behind it. All four of them focused on the effects of what it is like to be in a BDSM relationship. Psychologytoday.com starts with the question by asking “Are they sick?” and going into an explanation of how Freud’s psychology would view it as […]
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Pretty cocky
It’s a dilemma many submissives face, how much of their personality to let shine through, how much control is too much control to asset within a D/s negotiation. The extremes are well known and often presented, slaves with no limits of any kind, and submissive who challenge through various forms of topping. In the middle, […]