Clothing can help you create an identity and feel more assured of your sexuality. Indeed, if you look the part, it begins to sink in at a psychological level. In particular, many feel empowered by changing their appearance with makeup and clothes. When we put on our bondage gear, it’s symbolic; we occupy the role […]
In any dynamic there are usually some form of rules that have been pre agreed to which encompass things such as, daily routines, presentation, grooming, habits, speech, training, journals, clothing, chores and the list goes on. All of these rules have one key similarity and that is ‘The Spirit of the Rule’. This is the […]
Introduction There are many forms of exchange between a Dominant and a submissive in a D/s dynamic. The most common being communication, with that comes its own world of complications that you could run into. One of the more popular ones mentioned and discussed is Topping from the bottom and how to correct that style […]
This guide is designed to give you the basics of what to look for in a butt plug, mistakes to avoid, and helpful suggestions for ensuring success in discovering the joy of plugging up your butt. It is important to have real toys Here’s what to look out for and why: A flared base on […]
Aftercare is the recovery from a scene or play, where a set of actions help the mind and body relate to the change in physical and emotion energy expended. It is common for feelings of sadness or a sudden emotional response to occur in the hours, and sometimes days following a scene. Coming up with […]
Self love and appreciation – A beginners guide to loving yourself In the era is social media, instant gratification is exponentially personified in likes, and comments, and just as quickly disappointment is magnified and self-doubt are amplified. In the context of BDSM, it is no different, but add to it an endorphin rush from a […]
This guide is designed to give you the tools required in order to begin having enjoyable anal play using sex toys. There are suggestions for how to select toys, how to properly and safely maintain them, and finally a guide for how to begin using and enjoying them. Before you begin Selecting your toy: Starting with […]
Before engaging in impact play, there are a couple considerations, and some essential items to ensure safety as well as enjoyment. Warm Up As with any BDSM activity, start low and slow, especially with impact play. Sudden sharp blows without warm up strokes is very rarely considered pleasurable by most SM standards and can also […]
I love my protocols, I know it’s not a kink or a fetish, but it is so impactful to my every day routine that going without them is now a hard limit for me. Here are some considerations for creating protocols, a guide for Dommes and subs. What is a protocol A protocol is any […]