Research is a critical component to developing new skills, expanding knowledge, and exploring new fetishes in a safe and thoughtful manner.
Therefore, research is a critical component of DommesLife. Education is a passion shared by all members of our community who freely share these resources so others can learn and grow.
Safe zones in the BDSM context refer to the areas in which are safest to hit when doing impact play. these areas do not contain any organs and have the most meat to hit without causing an impact with the bones. The most universal safe zone is the butt! its big, meaty and just looks […]
During a time when my depression spiked, and I had difficulty being happy with myself, I was lucky enough to be offered guidance by the Woman who would later become my Mentor. She suggested meditation as a way to deal with the overwhelming despair I felt. I was skeptical of its benefits at the time, […]
Are people who take part in BDSM psychologically maladjusted? The Myth For people inexperienced and otherwise uninitiated in kink, the BDSM lifestyle may seem surreal. While a person who would consider themselves as “vanilla” (not kinky) may enjoy some hair pulling or light spanking, many see the image of BDSM as being whips, chains and […]
For my homemade kink toy, I converted a wooden coat hanger into a compact cane with a very stingy impact. First, I removed the cross bar from the hanger. the nice thing abut this was I could still use the rest of the hanger as it was intended to be used lol. Next, I removed […]
BDSM must involve the use of fancy tools and expensive equipment… The Myth The Task You are to make a BDSM themed toy or a piece of equipment using only items you already have laying around at home. You can re-purpose thing but you have to have made significant changes to it first. You can’t just […]
People who are into BDSM have more mental health issues than vanilla people… The Myth One common myth that you will run into as you journey down the winding stairway of the lifestyle on your way to the deep dark scary recesses of the Dungeon is that people who practice BDSM have more mental health […]
A person who is Dominant or submissive in ‘real life’ will prefer a similar role in BDSM The Myth Personality Types and Their Roles in BDSM I have heard the argument both ways, that Dominants and submissives are determined by their personality types – remaining consistent to or being opposite – in their everyday / […]
BDSM is all about pain and torture… The Myth “Please water board me, please I need it” I have never even heard of anyone uttering these words. To some is supposedly BDSM is all about pain and torture. There are a couple issue with this statement. One torture is involuntary where as BDSM requires consent. […]
Self love and appreciation – A beginners guide to loving yourself In the era is social media, instant gratification is exponentially personified in likes, and comments, and just as quickly disappointment is magnified and self-doubt are amplified. In the context of BDSM, it is no different, but add to it an endorphin rush from a […]
In Diva’s Dungeon we follow SSC and RACK, but what does that mean? Well, for starters SsC means Safe, Sane, and Consensual; and RACK sands for Risk-aware, Consensual, Kink. But it’s a lot more and not quite as simple as the acronyms may imply, let’s go through these letters one by one. Safe: You have […]