Edge Play is one of those terms that seems to have two different meanings within the community. What constitutes edge play to one person, might seem like licking vanilla ice cream to another person. Term One: Some people consider edge play to be an umbrella term for a list of kinks and fetishes considered to […]
The act of masturbation is rarely understood as being about self-love – a sexual attraction to self. Rather, this solo act is typically regarded in the narrowest sense: as about alleviating tension (sexual or otherwise), or as providing oneself with a momentary sensory pleasure that is simple, uncomplicated and free. What does Self-love mean? Self-love […]
Clothespin Zippers are as much art as they are torture and can be an exhilarating way to explore pleasure and pain. It takes a bit of planning and although the experience ends in a matter of seconds, the moment before the string is pulled, the look in the bottom’s eyes, the artistic design and the […]
Playing with Clamps Clamps are meant to hold things securely through pressure, effectively used in BDSM for pain, make no mistake as beautiful as some applications may be, there will be pain and it requires taking precautions to practice safely. The amount of pain will depend on the type of clamps you are using, where […]
Clothing can help you create an identity and feel more assured of your sexuality. Indeed, if you look the part, it begins to sink in at a psychological level. In particular, many feel empowered by changing their appearance with makeup and clothes. When we put on our bondage gear, it’s symbolic; we occupy the role […]
In any dynamic there are usually some form of rules that have been pre agreed to which encompass things such as, daily routines, presentation, grooming, habits, speech, training, journals, clothing, chores and the list goes on. All of these rules have one key similarity and that is ‘The Spirit of the Rule’. This is the […]
Introduction There are many forms of exchange between a Dominant and a submissive in a D/s dynamic. The most common being communication, with that comes its own world of complications that you could run into. One of the more popular ones mentioned and discussed is Topping from the bottom and how to correct that style […]
In this second part of the Dom(me)’s Life two-part series on Kinky Goals and Resolutions, we’re looking ahead to the New Year. Here we’ll take our reflections from the past year (see part one of this series, if you haven’t already, for help on this), and we’ll use them to create meaningful protocols, goals &/or […]
Kinky Goals & Resolutions, Week One It’s that time again—the year is new and many people use this time to set goals and make resolutions for the calendar ahead. As lifestyle kinksters, we too can take the new year as a chance to reflect on our kinky journey and chart our course for what we’d […]
Sensory Deprivation Removing one or more of the senses in order to amplify the sensations of the remaining ones. It is a quick way to elevate feelings of vulnerability and submission, and can be disorienting as well as overwhelming. Temperature Play Simply put, temperature play is the act of using hot or cold to elicit […]