There will be moments along the way where you feel like giving up, that the connection you seek, or the feeling that evades you will never be fulfilled. Remember in those times that you don’t need to set timelines, you don’t need to know every goal, and you don’t need to make definitive decisions one […]
It’s difficult to tell the difference between real jewels and fake jewels at a glance, so why does it matter? In your search for something exquisite, what you end up with really depends on how you approach your goal. In BDSM, taking time, doing research, and setting realistic goals will ultimately get you the faster, […]
I feel naked when i am dressed, and i feel awkward being naked. I’m not good at hugging, yet i long to be touched. Where it stems from is a desire to be humble, and live modestly, not seeking to fulfill my own needs, but understanding how i can make an impact, leave a footprint, […]
A friend of mine wrote on his blog about how quick to judgment we can all be, especially when it comes to assessing someone’s motives. Over time we become conditioned by our surroundings, entering a new environment or dynamic can sometimes create a conflict of expectations. The importance of communication and boundaries go without saying […]
Some thoughts really turn me around, take my line of thinking and turn it on it’s head. I discussed today how my life would be different if all aspects of BDSM were public, accepted and norms in society. What struck me was not how it would impact my current relationships and day to day activities, […]
The foundations of BDSM are anchored in trust, the best source for growth are also and always going to be placed you can trust. If you are new to the scene, join a local munch or online social community and listen, ask questions, and gather as many opinions as possible. If you have experience, ask […]
Often i wonder how many mistakes i make on purpose, hoping to be caught. Little ones and big ones, for the purpose of receiving punishment or the opportunity to correct oneself, it’s very common in BDSM to see mistakes being made well before they even happen. What causes this can be fun, wanting to draw […]
How do you leverage the tools and resources you have available to you in order to achieve your goals? I have noticed that, as many enter the scene as an exploration of one – or a development and understanding of self – most choose to remain on a path of self discovery and self awareness. […]
Aftercare is the recovery from a scene or play, where a set of actions help the mind and body relate to the change in physical and emotion energy expended. It is common for feelings of sadness or a sudden emotional response to occur in the hours, and sometimes days following a scene. Coming up with […]
If you have a good sense of what your needs are, and you know the type of scene you are getting yourself into, it’s time to put your own list together of things you will need in order to create your own aftercare kit. The items in an aftercare kit will be different for everyone […]