Define blood play? When I hear blood play i think of some type of WAM play. And that’s a nope for me. Now if moving on to something like blood cupping or needles, I’m okay with it just as long as I know ahead of time and can prepare for it. Blood doesn’t bother me […]
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Processing Pain
I often hear submissives and bottoms troubled by the fact that they can’t take as much pain as other people they see playing. A good bit of what we do in this lifestyle involves some type of pain in some form, be it physical or mental. These types of play aren’t just for masochist. Masochists […]
Active submission means that a sub is actively engaged with their Dominant. This can be done though negotiation, scene planning, doing extra things above the expectations to make their Dominant happy. They understand that a dynamic is a journey and not the destination, seeking to grow with their Dominant and be part of the ongoing […]
Are people who take part in BDSM psychologically maladjusted? The Myth For people inexperienced and otherwise uninitiated in kink, the BDSM lifestyle may seem surreal. While a person who would consider themselves as “vanilla” (not kinky) may enjoy some hair pulling or light spanking, many see the image of BDSM as being whips, chains and […]
A person who is Dominant or submissive in ‘real life’ will prefer a similar role in BDSM The Myth Personality Types and Their Roles in BDSM I have heard the argument both ways, that Dominants and submissives are determined by their personality types – remaining consistent to or being opposite – in their everyday / […]
BDSM is all about pain and torture… The Myth “Please water board me, please I need it” I have never even heard of anyone uttering these words. To some is supposedly BDSM is all about pain and torture. There are a couple issue with this statement. One torture is involuntary where as BDSM requires consent. […]
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A Guide to Impact Play
Before engaging in impact play, there are a couple considerations, and some essential items to ensure safety as well as enjoyment. Warm Up As with any BDSM activity, start low and slow, especially with impact play. Sudden sharp blows without warm up strokes is very rarely considered pleasurable by most SM standards and can also […]
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Dacryphilia
largely understudied fetish, dacryphilia can often be broken down into 2-5 subcategories (depending on who you ask). 1.sexual arousal from someone displaying strong emotion2.sexual arousal from the emotional release that accompanies crying (i.e., an emotional catharsis). There are a couple more specific subcategories(voyeuristic, lower lip, ext…), but these two specifically seem to be the most […]