There will be moments along the way where you feel like giving up, that the connection you seek, or the feeling that evades you will never be fulfilled. Remember in those times that you don’t need to set timelines, you don’t need to know every goal, and you don’t need to make definitive decisions one way or another.
When you are upset, it usually is the result of a long standing feeling that you for the first time accept or for the first time validate or admit. Making a decision at this point is flawed, as you have only just experienced the true emotional impact of what drove you to feel that way.
Patience is always discussed in BDSM is being critical to finding what you are looking for, but patience is also important when making potential life altering decisions. Rarely do those in the BDSM community begin their journey on a whim, it takes time to discover your feelings and interests without questioning them.
Taking time away from the scene is a good way to hit pause, reflect on what your needs are. Often we put pressure on ourselves to move quickly, or act a certain way, or add to ourselves in order to grow, when we could reduce the pressure by reevaluating what is a priority and what is not.
Knowing your submissive needs is critical, if you are not sure if it is or not – then take a break from it. Meaning, if you have a protocol, if you have a forum, somewhere you feel pressured to include among your list of needs, make the decision to take a break rather than deciding to close the door forever on something you may realize you needed to create space for to begin with.
By making room for new things, you remove the stress of maintaining needs that potentially don’t add value, or no longer feel as strongly. WIthout going into the definition of a need, desire, and want, grow through subtraction and you will arrive at your destination faster.
These panties hold back my penis from flopping around too much, it barely holds anything, and threatens to loosen at any moment.
That’s what makes these panties special 😉
