Submissives in D/s relationship often feel the need to take responsibility over the happiness of their Dominant. It has nothing to do with topping from the bottom, or taking control, you can’t be responsible for your D’s happiness because it’s not your job.
I could get into a Good Will Hunting rant on it’s not your job / it’s not your fault, but the most obvious way to explain is to say not matter how in synch you are with your partner, you are still two separate people with responsibilities of your own. Your Dominant may be responsible for your well being, but you alone are responsible for your happiness and that is true for both of you.
Feelings, emotions, and physical responses cannot be controlled, transferred or synchronous. Decisions, routines and expectations can be, and this is the exchange that takes place between the two, influence over an action with the intention of impacting well being.
The reward for your happiness is the acknowledgement of the discipline required to maintain your happiness. Your job is to define it, communicate your feelings, and share what you need to be happy.
The journey you share is not discovering your happiness, but finding ways to enjoy it to its fullest, through pain and pleasure, through exploration and education, and through share goals.
Understanding what you need in order to be happy is a job that you have whether you are in a relationship or not. Being able to communicate it means you are ready to start a new relationship, or you are well prepared to maintain and fulfill your existing relationships.
These panties were my secure pouch during a round of golf, club and balls held firmly in place while others were being whacked – it was what i needed to be happy and i said as much before Mistress approved them.
That’s what makes these panties special 😉
