Whatever your kinks, your role, your current status, you will struggle. What did you expect? I started into the lifestyle because i was complacent, allowing things i had determined as needs to go unfulfilled and desires to go unexplored. So it’s no surprise there will be days where we struggle, the amazing thing about BDSM […]
Someone very near and dear to me is always right, i won’t embarrass Mistress by saying who it is, but She will let you know between the two of us it is Her, She will let me know however in much more subtle ways. It took little time for me to remove the word no […]
Your presence is air, your silence is deafening and suffocating. For service oriented kinksters, a never ending dialogue occurs in absentia. The desire to be needed and relied upon extends to time present, and time away. People who are service oriented thrive on seeing their efforts impacting others positively, are passionate about assignments and responsibilities, […]
Shoutouts Would like to give a special shoutout to mark and danny, you two are rocking it! Keep up the great work! Both Danny and mark have stepped up in our Dommeslife chat room, added some new daily discussion topics as well. Stop by #Dommes.life in Kik and say hi today for some good conversation. […]
Labels are something i despise, even though i freely proclaim that words only power if you let them, they hold even more power if you try to hide them. Afraid of being treated differently, in ways beyond our control, we try to influence our outward image so others will encourage our strengths instead of exploiting […]
If i tried to sell a rocket dildo, i can almost guarantee that people would buy it. There’s an extreme element to some fetishes where rational application of a device is secondary to the symbolic nature of it’s immensity. I have met many subs who proudly present their massive insertables for use only to discover […]
I used to write erotica from both sides of the D/s perspective in the hopes of understanding the value of each. I couldn’t fathom how anyone would want to be my Dominant, and what they would gain from it. When asking D types if i was on the right path or not, the answers ranged […]
When we let words hold power of us, we reduce our own self worth, and indeed our thick skin to be paper thin and translucent. Referring to ourselves negatively, we attempt to hide the impact those words hold over us, but claiming them first before others can. When we respond to negative words from others, […]
Bows can be so pretty, but ribbons don’t always stand for joy. Something seemingly delicate and frail can hold so much power if placed on a pedestal. Holding together important gifts and garments ribbons can bind and prevent things from unravelling and falling apart. Ribbons can carry meaning, symbolic signs of hope or cut when […]
It’s a dilemma many submissives face, how much of their personality to let shine through, how much control is too much control to asset within a D/s negotiation. The extremes are well known and often presented, slaves with no limits of any kind, and submissive who challenge through various forms of topping. In the middle, […]