When i started wearing panties many years ago, i expected to feel a sense of humiliation and embarrassment. What excited me at the time was not being called a name or being degraded by being mocked, it was the embarrassment of the arousal that it caused. It was something i was embarrassed to admit, it […]
I have found many kinky uses for rubber bands. I’ve met many subs who fear their lack of access to kinky toys limits their experiences and their worth – it is not so. We are only limited by our imagination. These are probably my favorite panties, and if you look at them closely enough, you […]
Miss Seelie’s Week This week really made me think and analyze a lot about myself. I think it brought out some of the best in me. It meant a lot because I negotiated my first ever scene. I recognized my injuries and how it could impact play time. I got to combine impact, CBT, and […]
Knowing when is the right time to push isn’t always clear. A cloudy mind won’t always clear through a storm of kinky activity. So when does a blinding session with whips and chains bring about calm? When does a hand through your hair satiate even your most primal need? It’s when you are balanced. Yin […]
When I first heard about sounding it immediately went on my hard limits list. Largely I would say due to having absolutely no idea about it and the fear of putting something inside the penis. Phantom pain I guess would be the best way to describe it, even without trying it. Our mind works in […]
On its face this statement is true, but an explanation is necessary. This is a blanket one size fits all general statement and as most stereotypical statements it doesn’t hold up when truly analyzed. Using the logic that made this statement you could argue that shooting fireworks, cooking a roast in a pressure cooker, or […]
This myth, like most myths, is born out of ignorance, inexperience, and misunderstanding. In my opinion one of the main roots of this myth is a misunderstanding or lack of thought of how control or power is exchanged in a Dominant/submissive relationship. This myth stems from the assumption that the power, control, or influence that […]
BDSM is all about pain and torture… The Myth “Please water board me, please I need it” I have never even heard of anyone uttering these words. To some is supposedly BDSM is all about pain and torture. There are a couple issue with this statement. One torture is involuntary where as BDSM requires consent. […]
How do you show your true colors as a submissive? Often subs approach the desire to show commitment and devotion by being “the most submissive” or having “the least limits” possible. The way i look at this question is to try to understand what makes me unique and my submission valuable. Color is how i […]
Self love and appreciation – A beginners guide to loving yourself In the era is social media, instant gratification is exponentially personified in likes, and comments, and just as quickly disappointment is magnified and self-doubt are amplified. In the context of BDSM, it is no different, but add to it an endorphin rush from a […]